What To Do As A Christian When You Like Someone.
Dating is a funny thing. There are so many stories of people who are struggling to find their one true love through dating apps or through friends, but there are also stories of people who have found their perfect match right under the noses of their friends and family members. What do you do if you’re in this situation? How can you tell if that special someone is actually The One for you? And what does it mean when God says it’s time to date again after a divorce? In this article, we’ll explore Christian dating principles as well as some tips and tricks for getting started on your new life journey!
What To Do As A Christian When You Like Someone
1. Pray this prayer daily.
Prayer is a powerful way to connect with God and express your love for him. When you pray, the bond between you and God grows stronger. You can also pray for others in it, such as someone you like. The more you pray, the more likely it is that God will guide your heart (and his) about this person who has caught your attention.
Prayer can also be an expression of gratitude for what God has done in your life or even just today—that’s because when we’re grateful for something, we naturally want to thank the person who gave it to us! So if he’s been good to you lately, let him know how thankful you are by praying about him at night before bedtime (or whenever).
2. Realize that you are called to love, not lust.
While it’s tempting to think that you can fall in love with someone, it is important to realize that the emotions you feel are not necessarily indicative of love. Instead, lust is an emotion while love is a virtue. The Bible calls us to purity and holiness in all our actions, including those related to romance. Lustful thoughts and actions are sinful because they violate God’s commands or lead us away from Him.
In contrast, true love involves choosing to do good for someone else out of selflessness rather than personal gain or desire (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Think about how your boyfriend would respond if you asked him if he loved you—he would probably say yes! But did he choose this answer because he was worried about what would happen if he said no? Or did he genuinely want what was best for you? If so then maybe your relationship has more going for it than just hot chemistry!
3. Acquaint yourself with purity.
When it comes to purity, there’s a big difference between being “pure” and “purity.” The former is just a destination; the latter is a lifestyle. If you’re looking for the former, then you’re bound to be disappointed when your life doesn’t look like what you thought it would—because purity isn’t about making choices based on what’s going to make us feel good or get us ahead, but rather about choosing things that are best for our lives and our communities as a whole. Purity is about loving others more than ourselves (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
When we live according to purity, we don’t have expectations of how other people should behave because we know that everyone has their own unique journey in life—and no matter where they come from or how far they go on their journey, God loves them just as much as He loves me and wants His best for them too!
4. Keep the relationship focused on Christ.
When you like someone, it’s natural to focus on their looks, the way they make you feel, and how they make you want to spend more time with them. But when it comes down to it, the most important thing is not how your relationship develops but how much each person grows spiritually. When you date someone who is not a Christian or who has different beliefs than yours (or even if they just disagree with some of your core values), it can be difficult to stay focused on Christ and what he expects from us.
The best way for Christians to keep their relationships focused on Christ is by keeping their priorities straight: focus on the person’s character; focus on their spiritual journey; focus on the person’s interests; and so forth until eventually, your relationship will begin reflecting Godly characteristics too!
5. Honor the other person’s boundaries and vice versa.
Boundaries are healthy limits that you set for yourself. These can include your physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries. They keep you safe from harm and help to ensure that you’re not being taken advantage of by other people or situations.
Boundaries aren’t just about saying no to things that feel bad; they also mean saying yes to things that feel good or true to who you are as a person. For example, if someone asks if they can borrow $20 from you but doesn’t sound like they have any intention of paying it back, that’s something worth respecting because it feels wrong in your gut to lend money without expecting payment back in return (even though it may seem like “a small amount”).
However, sometimes what feels right isn’t always biblical—and because of this conflict between our natural desires/instincts and God’s perfect will, sometimes we need extra guidance as Christians when making decisions about how far we should go with someone else before entering into a relationship with them romantically or sexually (which I’ll talk more about later).
6. Engage in accountability with your parents, mentors, pastors, etc.
- Engage in accountability with your parents, mentors, pastors, etc.
- Be open to the advice you receive from these people and ask for help however you can get it.
- Be honest with them about what’s going on and who you like. A lot of the time these people may have already had conversations about this person! But if not, then let them know so they can pray for them too! As Christian, we should not keep secrets because God wouldn’t want us to do that either; He wants us to be transparent and honest with each other because He gave us His Word (the Bible) as guidance for our lives.
- Be aware of boundaries though – some things might not be appropriate or wise for others to know about as some people might have different opinions than yours or even worse – might judge something differently than what God would want! So ask yourself: Are my parents/mentors etc., trustworthy enough for me to share everything going on in my life? If so then great! If not then maybe try another avenue instead…
7. It is possible to have a healthy dating relationship as a Christian.
You can have a healthy dating relationship as a Christian. The key is to be honest with yourself about what you want and make sure your relationship with God is solid. If you find yourself getting into a physical relationship before you’re ready, stop and ask yourself why. Are you trying to prove something? Or are there deeper issues causing this attraction?
If the answer is yes, then it’s time for some serious self-evaluation. You need to examine your own heart and soul—are there any issues that may have led up to this point? It could be something like insecurity or low self-esteem—things that can happen when we don’t spend enough time with God or think enough about who we really are in Him.
Once those issues are taken care of (and they will take some time), it’s time for another important step: realize that God has called us not only to love others but also ourselves. The Bible tells us “love not the world” (1 John 2:15); this includes lusting after people who aren’t our spouse one day! Realize too that even if your partner eventually fulfills all of his/her potential on earth today; two years from now he/she may look completely different because both physically and mentally he/she will continue growing throughout life! Therefore instead of falling in love with someone based solely on their personality traits such as confidence etc., focus more so on loving them unconditionally because their character matters most over anything else.”
Summary
When you are a Christian and you like someone, it can be a confusing and difficult situation. You want to honor God and follow His will, but you also want to be true to your feelings. Here are some tips on what to do as a Christian when you like someone:
1. Pray for Guidance: Before you do anything, pray for God to show you which path to take. Ask Him for guidance and clarity, and to help you make the right decision.
2. Be Honest With Yourself: Be honest about your feelings and what you are thinking. If you are not sure if the person is a good match for you, take the time to get to know them and make sure that you are compatible.
3. Talk to Your Parents: Your parents can offer helpful advice and support, and can be a great resource for finding out more about the person.
4. Seek Godly Counsel: Talk to your pastor, friends or family members who know God’s Word and can offer godly advice.
5. Spend Time Together: Spend time together in a group setting or in a public place. This will help you get to know each other better and can help you make a decision.
6. Take It Slow: Don’t rush into a relationship. Take your time and go at a pace that is comfortable for both of you.
7. Respect Boundaries: Respect each other’s boundaries and don’t do anything that would be considered immoral or inappropriate.
When you like someone, it can be a confusing time. Remember to pray for guidance, be honest with yourself, talk to your parents and seek godly counsel. Spend time together, take it slow and respect each other’s boundaries. With God’s help, you can make the right decision and honor Him in the process.
