The Bible tells us we are to submit to one another, but that the husband is the head of the wife. Many women think this means they are an underling who must follow his every command. But it’s not that simple. Being submissive to your husband means you acknowledge God made him the head of your marriage and family. You honor his role as the leader in your marriage, and you respect his leadership. It does not mean he is boss of you, any more than you are boss of him. It does not mean he can treat you badly or do whatever he wants with no say from you at all—he should listen to what matters most to both of you before making any decisions about our future together as a family
Submitting To Your Husband
The Bible tells us we are to submit to one another, but that the husband is the head of the wife.
The Bible tells us we are to submit to one another, but that the husband is the head of the wife. (Ephesians 5:22, 1 Corinthians 11:3) We all know what submission means, right? It means “to yield or surrender to the authority of another.” That’s not a bad thing! But what does it mean when I’m called upon in my marriage to submit to my husband?
The word “submit” means “to yield or surrender,” but why would God call on us as wives to do this? Because it goes back again to how God created men and women differently so they could complete each other and become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). It has nothing at all do with who is inferior or superior—that’s why it can be hard for some people who see themselves as equals. The word “head” doesn’t carry any connotations like this either; many languages use different words than our English version does because there isn’t anything inherently masculine about being in charge—it’s just an accepted way of doing things based on biblical principles that work best for families and relationships alike!
Many women think this means they are an underling who must follow his every command.
Many women think this means they are an underling who must follow his every command.
This is not the case. The Bible does not call us to be underlings, slaves, or commanded by men. We are called to submit to our husbands out of respect and honor for them, acknowledging their leadership in our marriages.
But it’s not that simple.
Submitting to your husband isn’t as simple as just following orders, doing what he says and always agreeing with him.
You should submit to your husband because God designed marriage so that he would lead the marriage and family. He made men to be natural-born leaders, so when you submit to his leadership, you’re also submitting to God’s plan for how things should work in your relationship (and all relationships). The Bible says: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands…” (Ephesians 5:22). That verse is clear about one thing—submission is not optional!
Submitting doesn’t mean giving up yourself or giving away all of your power; it means honoring the role that God has given him as the head of household by respecting his ideas and decisions during conflict resolution instead of trying to win every argument.
Being submissive to your husband means you acknowledge God made him the head of your marriage and family.
Being submissive to your husband means you acknowledge God made him the head of your marriage and family. When you submit to his leadership, you respect it and follow it willingly. You are not the boss of him, nor is he the boss of you. Instead, both partners work together as equal partners who make decisions together according to what they believe is best for the family unit in that specific situation.
You honor his role as the leader in your marriage, and you respect his leadership.
When you submit to your husband, you honor his role as the leader in your marriage. You don’t try to be bossy or treat him like a slave. You don’t see yourself as his servant or employee, since neither of those roles are appropriate for a wife.
You also understand that he has authority over you because God has given him this responsibility; it is not something that he can give up or take away at will.
As such, when it comes to decisions involving money and other resources (such as time), he should always be consulted first before making any major purchases—even if they’re small ones.
It does not mean he is boss of you, any more than you are boss of him.
The Bible describes the relationship between husband and wife as a marriage covenant, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). This union is not based on gender but on their love for each other. As such, it is not uncommon for one spouse to submit to the other in different circumstances. For example, if no one else was around, who would you want your spouse to follow? If you were lost in the woods and had no food or shelter available, who would you want your spouse to listen to?
In this scenario submission does not mean that he is boss of you any more than it means that you are boss of him: both spouses have equal authority within the marriage covenant.
It does not mean he can treat you badly.
It does not mean that he has the right to treat you poorly, or to do anything he wants. The Bible says that men are supposed to love their wives as they would love their own bodies (Ephesians 5:25) and that husbands are called upon to “love their wives just as Christ loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25). A husband who loves his wife in this way will respect her desires and wishes, even if they don’t match his own.
A good husband does not take advantage of his position—rather than making decisions about everything for the sake of convenience or expediency, he listens carefully to what she thinks is best. He hears her out and considers how it might affect both of them before making a decision—and then informs her of what happened so she can decide whether or not she agrees with him.
It doesn’t mean he can do whatever he wants, and you have no say in things.
It’s important to remember that submitting to your husband doesn’t mean he can do whatever he wants and you have no say in things. It means that you willingly give up your own rights, opinions, and preferences—and then he makes the final decision.
It also means asking him for permission before making a change, such as changing jobs or moving houses.
Of course, while you submit to your husband’s leadership, you are still a partner with him in making decisions together.
While you submit to your husband, he is still your partner in the marriage. You and your husband are equals, and both of you have a say in decisions. You should never feel like you’re being bossed around or controlled by someone else just because they are higher up on the hierarchy than you (especially if they don’t deserve it). Even if they do deserve it!
That’s why I love this verse from Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you would be for them.”
Yes, God commands us to obey our husbands; however, He also commands us to respect our husbands’ wisdom and leadership. Moreover, when we submit to our hubbies’ authority over us with kindness and grace – instead of grumbling about it – we yield ourselves unto them more fully through acts of submission like making dinner every night or cleaning out the garage once a month (or whatever else feels most natural).
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This is an important part of having a healthy marriage, and a loving relationship with each other.
You may be thinking, “What does submission to my husband have to do with our marriage? It sounds like it would make us less of a team!”
But the truth is, submitting to your husband is one of the most important parts of having a healthy marriage, and a loving relationship with each other. Submission isn’t about giving up control or letting your husband make all the decisions on his own. Instead, it’s about learning how to work together as equals in every area of life—even when it comes to things you’re good at!
Submitting to your husband means acknowledging he is the head of your family while respecting his leadership as well as each other’s opinions when you are making decisions together.
Submission does not mean that the husband is boss, master or ruler over the wife. Nor does submission mean that he has absolute power over her. Submission is a relationship between two people who love each other and have chosen to live their lives together in a way that honors God and benefits both partners. In this way, submission can be seen as an act of love toward one’s spouse rather than as an act of subordination to one’s spouse.
Submission means respect for your husband as head of your home; however it also includes mutual respect between you and him as individuals within your marriage relationship
Even though the Bible tells us to submit to one another, that doesn’t mean that we should be submissive in every aspect of our lives. It’s important that we find some balance between being submissive to our husbands and not letting them take over all aspects of your lives. I hope this post has given you some insight into what it means for women to submit themselves as wives and help guide you on how best fit into your marriage relationship.