Insecurity is a problem that’s bigger than you, and you can’t fix it on your own. But God has the power to help you overcome insecurity—and He wants to! Here are some scriptural tips for how to overcome insecurity.
How To Overcome Insecurity Biblically
Identify the root causes of insecurity.
You need to identify the root causes of your insecurity. If you’ve hurt someone, or if they have hurt you, it’s important to acknowledge that and say sorry. If you are insecure because of something that has been said or done to you, own up to it and ask God for help in healing those wounds.
If you’re still struggling with insecurity after taking these steps, perhaps your social circle contains people who are bad influences on your sense of worthiness and ability—and those relationships could be holding you back from reaching out for the help and support that God wants to give through others (James 4:8). Your personal community may look healthy on the outside but contain unhealthy influences within.
Don’t trust your own judgment.
The next time you are tempted to think that your own judgment is better than God’s, consider this:
- God’s judgment is perfect. His knowledge and understanding of all things is infinite, unlike ours which is finite.
- God’s judgment reflects His character. His love for us, provision for us and protection over us show He always wants what’s best for us in every situation.
- God’s Word promises that “all scripture [is] given by inspiration of God” (2 Timothy 3:16). It is therefore authoritative in its entirety, containing no errant portions or contradictions—a fact confirmed by 2 Peter 1:20-21 where the apostle Peter writes, “No prophecy of Scripture comes from someone’s own interpretation…no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man…men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.”
And don’t trust others’ judgment too much, either.
The best way to overcome insecurity is to not allow other people’s opinions and judgments to have so much power over your life. You should not let others define you or determine your self-worth, confidence, esteem, or image. God has given each of us a value that’s all our own—and no one can take it away from us unless we allow them to do so.
You don’t need someone else’s opinion of who you are in order to know who God made you to be. In fact, it’s often more helpful for us when we decide for ourselves whether or not we like the person He created us as!
Stop comparing yourself with others.
The only person you can ever really be compared to is yourself. Comparing yourself with others will only bring about feelings of self-loathing and unworthiness because of the reality that you will never be able to “keep up” with everyone else. What makes this worse is that the more you compare yourself with others, the more likely it is that they are comparing themselves with you! It’s not just a waste of time; it’s also a destructive habit that has no benefit whatsoever.
The Bible teaches us in 1 Corinthians 10:12 that when we focus on ourselves instead of God, we become vain (Greek: kenos). We cannot change our innate character through self-focus. Instead of trying so hard to fit in by doing what everyone else does or by buying what they buy or saying what they say – try being your best self instead! It might not look like other people but who cares? You’re unique and have your own strengths and weaknesses which make up who YOU are as an individual!
Guard against envy and jealousy.
In today’s society, we are all susceptible to these feelings. Envy and jealousy can be a sign of insecurity, a lack of self-worth, or even a lack of self-confidence. If you find yourself experiencing these feelings it is important not to ignore them but rather take the time to understand what they mean in your life.
Envy is when you want something someone else has and jealousy is when you want something another person has. The Bible tells us that this kind of behavior is sinful:
“Do not envy another man’s possessions; do not long for what he has obtained,” Proverbs 23:17 (NIV). This verse indicates that when we see someone else with something we wish we had instead of being happy for them, then it becomes an issue for us instead.
Focus on the things you have control over.
Second, focus on the things you have control over. This means focusing on things that are within your power to change and improve:
- Focus on what you can learn and how you can grow. We often spend too much time focusing on what we already know, or even worse, what we wish we knew. But if this is our focus, then it results in discouragement because there’s so much more to learn! Instead of focusing on what’s missing from your life (or character), try spending time thinking about all that’s been added—your experiences with God and others—and how those new things have made a difference in who you are today.
- Focus on the things that could be different but aren’t yet fixed or resolved: Your hair color? Your clothes size? The way people treat you at work? The answers to these questions are all within your control! So why not take charge of them and make them better by changing them yourself?
Surround yourself with support.
A support network is essential. There’s no shame in asking for help, especially when it comes to your mental health. Of course, we’re not talking about therapy here; you can find that at any number of places. What we’re talking about is being willing to let people into your life who will listen when you need them to, and who will give advice when they think it’s needed. It might be a friend or family member; perhaps someone in church or another close community member could help as well (there are people out there who are trained specifically for this!).
When building a support network, keep these tips in mind:
- Ask yourself what kind of relationship works best for you—the one-on-one kind? Or do you feel more comfortable with groups? Sometimes hearing someone else’s story feels less intimidating than telling yours out loud!
- Be honest with yourself about whether or not the people around you understand what can be difficult about being insecure at times—or if they might not actually understand how hard it can be sometimes! If so, then maybe there are different types of relationships available for those situations where having someone close by would alleviate some anxiety levels…
Think about who you are and what you have to offer.
- You are made in God’s image.
- You are a child of God.
- You are a new creation in Christ.
- You are a child of the King.
- You are a fellow heir with Christ, and a joint-heir with Him; and He will share all things with us (Romans 8:17). The King has promised to give us everything that He has received from His Father (John 16:15-16), and we will be co-heirs with Christ Himself forevermore! This is what it means when Scripture says that we have been “sealed for salvation” (Ephesians 4:30). We have been sealed by God Himself as His children; therefore, no one can take away our salvation or rob us of it!
Do good things for other people.
- Do good things for other people.
- Do not be afraid to ask for help.
- Give to others, freely and generously.
- Be generous with your time, love, friendship and praise (to yourself).
Give it to God and lean on His wisdom, strength, and love.
God is in control. He has the wisdom, strength and love to take care of you. He never changes, nor does His character or purpose.
Your insecurity may stem from not knowing whether you can trust God with your life’s circumstances or relationships. If this sounds like you, ask yourself these questions: Where is insecurity coming from? Is it rooted in a lack of faith in God’s ability to provide for me and protect me from harm? Do I believe He wants what’s best for me? Am I willing to let go of my need for control so that I can better trust Him with my future?
You can overcome insecurity by leaning on God’s promises and power
You can overcome insecurity by leaning on God’s promises and power. God has promised to never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). He will be with you in all your trials (Joshua 1:9), give you strength when you need it most (Isaiah 41:10), and provide for all of your needs (Philippians 4:19). You also have the Holy Spirit living inside of you, guiding and strengthening every step along life’s journey (Romans 8:14-18).
As a Christian, it is important that we believe in these promises so that we may live out our lives fully confident in who we are as children of God. When we become insecure about ourselves or our abilities, it is easy to forget the truth found in Scripture and lean into our own wisdom instead. This leads us away from God’s plan for our lives —and ultimately leaves us feeling empty as well as unfulfilled. Allowing yourself to fall into this trap can lead down an unhealthy path where nothing ever seems good enough because nothing ever satisfies!
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s possible to find freedom from insecurity by leaning on the promises and power of God. Take some time to put into practice the biblical advice we’ve discussed in this post. Keep inviting Him into your heart, ask for His help when you’re struggling, and rest in His abiding love for you!