How To Love Difficult Person

Everyone has people in their lives who are hard to love. Perhaps they have addictions or mental illness that makes it impossible for them to be a good friend, or maybe they simply have an abrasive personality that sets your teeth on edge. Carefully consider how you can best love these people in your life.

How To Love Difficult Person

Accept the person’s limitations.

Accepting the person’s limitations is a crucial step in loving them. You must realize that they are doing the best they can, and it is not your job to try and change them. You cannot expect someone to change, only hope that they will one day decide to do so on their own accord. If they choose not to seek help, then it’s up to them whether or not they decide that the benefits are worth the effort of making such changes in their life.

If you find yourself disappointed by someone’s inaction or refusal to change, try shifting your focus onto yourself instead of focusing on what others should be doing differently or better for you as an individual person. Taking responsibility for your own life and happiness will allow you more freedom in how you feel about yourself and other people – even people who might seem difficult at first glance!

Make time to listen to the difficult person.

Listening is a key to understanding. When you are listening to someone, use your words to understand the person’s feelings, not just the facts of what he or she says. Use active listening techniques so that the difficult person can feel understood and validated.

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Some examples of active listening techniques include:

  • Do not interrupt or correct when the other person is speaking; instead, wait until there is a natural break in their speech before responding with any comments of your own. This allows them time to fully express themselves without feeling as though they have been cut off mid-sentence.
  • Use non-verbal cues such as nodding your head up and down or making an attentive face (looking into their eyes) while they speak so that they know you are paying attention and interested in what they’re saying; however, avoid excessive nodding because this can seem like overkill because there may be times when it seems better just not say anything at all rather than risk seeming rude!

Praise the person, emphasizing their strengths.

Praising the person, emphasizing their strengths.

Focus on the person’s strengths, not their weaknesses. Praise is something that should be implemented in a way that doesn’t make them feel patronized or like they are being praised for something they don’t deserve. You want to praise someone for doing something well or for having qualities that you admire and respect.

Help the person keep within boundaries.

  • Ask yourself if you are helping the person keep within boundaries. If a boundary is crossed, ask yourself if it was your own boundary or the other person’s.
  • Are you still willing to help this person? Do they deserve your help? If not, don’t give them any more of your time until they change (or until enough time has passed that you know for sure that nothing will change).
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Be patient, not pushy.

Patience is key. It’s not your job to change them, and it shouldn’t be your goal. You can’t control anyone but yourself, so don’t try. Don’t expect this person to change overnight just because you want them to, or even in a few days—sometimes it takes months or years of consistent work on their part before they’re able to recognize what they need to do differently in order for their behavior and actions to become more sympathetic and understanding toward others (including you).

Be patient with yourself too: it’s natural for us all to get frustrated when things don’t go our way immediately, but remember that patience is an important virtue in overcoming obstacles both big and small alike!

You can love someone who is difficult to love, even if it takes a long time.

You can love someone who is difficult to love, even if it takes a long time.

  • Love is a choice. It’s not an emotion or something that comes naturally or easily for everyone, but you have the power to choose how you will feel about another person and how you will treat him/her. You may not always be in control of your feelings, but you are always in control of your actions toward that person—no matter how much they’ve hurt or disappointed you in the past (or continue to).
  • Love is not a feeling; it’s an action process that requires patience, kindness, forgiveness and thoughtfulness on our part as well as theirs if we want our relationships with others to grow deeper over time instead of fizzle out after one argument (or ten).
  • When we choose love over anger/sadness/bitterness etc., then we’re able to maintain healthy boundaries around someone else without letting their negativity affect our ability to move forward without regretting anything later on down the road when things get tough again between us!”
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As we have discussed, it can be very challenging to love someone who is difficult to love. But it’s not impossible, and the rewards are worth the effort. Love is a powerful force and one that can heal, even when you least expect it. So keep at it and encourage others to do the same!

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