If you’re a woman who’s married or in a relationship with a man, you probably have questions about how to be submissive to your husband. If that’s the case, let me tell you: You are not alone. The topic of being submissive to your husband is one that many women struggle with even though it’s all over the internet—and there’s no shortage of conflicting information out there either.
So what does it mean to be submissive? Is being submissive really for every woman? And if so, how do I get started? Here’s everything you need to know about being submissive to your husband so that you can start today!
How To Be Submissive To Your Husband
1. Know what being submissive to your husband means.
There are many different definitions of what it means to be submissive, but we will define it this way:
Submitting your whole self to God is the first step in submitting to your husband. We see this pattern throughout Scripture—when Eve sinned by disobeying God, she also disobeyed Adam (Genesis 3:17). When Peter denied Jesus three times, he was rebuked by Jesus and then asked if he loved Him (John 21:15-17). The apostle Paul tells us that our bodies are temples for Christ and therefore we should glorify God with our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Because we have been saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ alone (Ephesians 2:8), we should submit ourselves wholeheartedly to Him instead of trusting in anything or anyone else for our salvation (Romans 10:13; Colossians 1:27-29; Titus 3:4-7).
2. Be respectful.
Remember that you are not your husband’s equal. You do not have to be equal partners in every area of life. In fact, your husband may sometimes lead you in areas that are outside of your expertise or experience. That’s okay!
It is important to recognize the leadership and wisdom he has over you and others in the home. Your husband will make decisions based on his position as head of the household, and those decisions should be respected by all members of the family unit.
If you find yourself arguing with him about something he has already decided on, stop right there! Don’t waste time trying to convince him otherwise; instead, take whatever actions need to be taken—even if they’re ones he hasn’t asked for yet—to implement what he has suggested or ordered.
3. Be willing to compromise.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you should get everything you want, but that’s not how marriage works. When my husband and I have a disagreement about something, there are times when one of us will have to give up something in order for there to be a happy ending. For example, if he wants me to clean the house every day but I’m too tired from work or an activity with friends, then he’ll take over for me for a few days so that I can rest up before doing more chores later on.
We all have different needs at different times in our lives; compromise is just how we manage those differences!
4. Be willing to submit to his authority.
If you want to be submissive, it’s important that you understand what submission is. Submission is not a sign of weakness. It is not being less than your husband or even being inferior to him. Rather, it’s an act of respect that you show him by allowing him to take the lead in certain situations.
You should also realize that submissiveness is a choice and can’t be forced upon anyone—not even by their husband! Many women think they must submit to their husbands because God says so, but this isn’t true at all: according to Ephesians 5:22–24 (NKJV), wives are supposed “to submit yourselves unto your own husbands.” That said, if you choose not to submit yourself to your husband then there will likely be some consequences (e.g., divorce).
5. Don’t be overly argumentative.
- Don’t be overly argumentative.
- Don’t argue for the sake of arguing.
- Don’t argue when you are angry.
- Don’t argue when you are frustrated.
- Don’t argue when the argument is about something you don’t understand.
- If a man feels like his opinion is not being taken seriously, he will shut down and become defensive, making him less likely to want to talk with his wife or listen when she wants to discuss something important with him (like how much money they should spend on food). It’s much easier to resolve conflict if both parties walk away feeling validated and respected—and thus willing to compromise or forgive one another than if only one person feels validated by an outcome that doesn’t reflect their true feelings about an issue at hand!
6. Let him have the last word.
When your husband is wrong, let him have the last word.
- Let him know that you disagree with him.
- Tell him what you are thinking and how it makes you feel.
- Don’t stop talking until he has fully heard your side of things.
- If he asks for more information or to see your point of view, give it to him without judging his first words or actions (and without defending yourself).
7. Let him have his way at times, even if you disagree.
You’ll find that letting him have his way at times is a good way to build trust, show him you trust him, and show him you love him. When he’s making decisions for the family, make sure he knows that this is something important to you. Just because it’s not your favorite food doesn’t mean that it has to be the last option on the table!
You should also let him take charge in other areas of life. For example: if your husband wants dinner at home instead of going out somewhere fancy (because he knows it’ll save money), then let him decide what we’re having for dinner tonight!
Just remember: don’t keep doing this all the time or else he might think that he’s always right about everything else too!
8. Being submissive is not the same thing as giving up or being a doormat; it’s about trusting your husband with certain things and respecting him and his decisions in a healthy way.
Being submissive is not the same thing as giving up or being a doormat; it’s about trusting your husband with certain things and respecting him and his decisions in a healthy way. Submission doesn’t mean that you have to give up all of your rights, but rather that you will submit to your husband as God has called for in His Word (Ephesians 5:21).
Here are some practical ways you can show submission to your husband:
- Respect his decisions even if they don’t make sense to you.
- Trust him when he says he’ll be home at 5:00 p.m., even though it’s 4:45 p.m. now and he hasn’t texted or called yet (which means maybe he wants to surprise you!).
If you’re a Christian wife, the Bible has plenty to say about how you should treat your husband. It’s important that you know what being submissive means and why it’s so crucial for a woman to follow this commandment from God. The Bible says that marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership between two people who love each other deeply—but that doesn’t mean there aren’t differences between men and women or even differences in roles within a marriage relationship. When women submit themselves fully to their husbands’ leadership, they can help bring balance back into society by providing men with guidance while also showing them respect; this creates harmony between partners while strengthening both sides of their relationship together as one unit instead of two separate individuals trying hard not to interfere with each other’s lives!