My husband and I were on the brink of divorce. We were arguing all the time, and even though we loved each other, it seemed like nothing could save our marriage. But then God gave me a breakthrough—and it changed everything!
Section: What Happened?
Section: The Breakthrough
Section: This Changed Everything
Section: The Peace that Passeth Understanding
How God Saved My Marriage
1. NO ONE EXPECTS THEIR MARRIAGE TO SURVIVE AFTER AN AFFAIR.
- I was devastated.
- I was angry.
- I was hurt.
- I was scared.
- I was confused.
- I was lonely.
- I felt sad and depressed and lost, like my life had been blown apart by a hurricane or tornado, leaving behind an empty landscape of debris and destruction with no hope of rebuilding anything that would resemble what we once had together as husband and wife.
2. I HAVE NOT SHARED THIS STORY BEFORE.
I have not shared this story before. I have not told my family or friends, I have not told my husband and children, my parents or siblings nor any of the friends I have made since then. In fact, if you are reading this right now, it is probably because you are one of those people who found me through a Google search by typing in “How God Saved My Marriage”. If that’s the case then thank you so much for taking the time to read this message! You’re awesome!
3. MY HUSBAND WAS NICE AND SWEET TO ME DURING THE FIRST THREE YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE.
My husband was nice and sweet to me during the first three years of our marriage. We were best friends who desired each other’s company. He was an excellent provider, father, son, brother, and friend. Our neighbors loved him because he was always willing to help them with their yard work or fix things around their house when they needed it. He worked hard at his job and treated the people he worked with like family because they helped him get where he was in life today. He was even a good co-worker who didn’t have enemies among his colleagues or boss(es).
4. I KNEW SOMETHING WAS UP, BUT I COULDN’T PUT MY FINGER ON IT.
You knew something was up. Something was wrong, but you couldn’t put your finger on it. You were trying to figure it out, but nothing made sense. An overwhelming feeling of “something’s not right” would overtake you whenever you thought about your life or even looked at yourself in the mirror.
You knew that deep down inside there was something missing from this world, from this life – something very important and profound . . .
5. THE DAY THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING.
One day, my husband told me he had been having an affair with a woman. He said he was sorry and that he wanted to work things out.
I was shocked and devastated by his confession. I didn’t know what to do; I was angry, sad, and confused all at the same time.
6. IT WAS LIKE MY WHOLE WORLD CRASHED DOWN AROUND ME.
You’ve probably been there. You’re in the middle of a conversation, or maybe you’re just daydreaming when suddenly your spouse says something that throws you into a tailspin. It could be anything from an accusation about infidelity to a casual comment about how much weight you’ve gained.
In my case, it was my husband telling me that he no longer loved me. He said this while we were discussing our issues as we sat in the church pew together—the worst possible place and time for me to hear these words spoken aloud by someone I trusted implicitly.
I was devastated—and not just emotionally but spiritually as well (Ephesians 6:12). I felt like I had been punched in the stomach and couldn’t breathe any more deeply than shallowly enough to get oxygen into my lungs but not so deep that it would trigger tears or sobs before they built up too much pressure inside me…
7. THIS IS HOW OUR MARRIAGE SURVIVED AFTER HE CHEATED ON ME.
I know that God saved my marriage because He answered my prayers. I prayed for a long time, and He heard me and answered my prayers by giving me the strength to forgive my husband and trust him again.
I know that God was in control of our marriage because His word tells us that He will never leave us or forsake us.
8. I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IN OUR FUTURE. BUT GOD DID!
- God will see you through hard times.
- God will help you get through hard times.
- God will help you get through hard times with your spouse, who may be struggling as well and needs encouragement from God just as much as you do. And He’ll help your kids too!
What if I didn’t know what would happen in our future? But God did! I knew that no matter how bad things got, we would get through it together—and He was right there by our sides every step of the way!
8. God will answer your prayers and see you through hard times when you are committed to Him and your spouse.
As you look back on your relationship and the troubles you have faced, you may wonder if God was really there for you. The answer is yes. You can trust that God is faithful to help you in all things, including marriage.
In fact, God’s love for us is so great that He sent His Son Jesus Christ to die on a cross to pay the price for our sins (Romans 5:8). Not only did Jesus’ death save us from hell, but it also provided salvation for our marriages by giving us hope for a better future—a future in which we can spend eternity with God and those we love (1 Corinthians 15:50-58).
This is not just a story about how God saved my marriage. It is also the story of how He saved me from myself. My marriage was a mess, but it wasn’t until God showed me that I needed to be saved from myself that I started making real progress in this area of my life. When I realized that my ego was getting in the way of my relationship with God, things began changing quickly – even though it took months before those changes were visible to the outside world. God has been so good to me in this process!
Takeaway: God’s love for us never ends; we must always strive to return that love by loving Him as well as others around us!